I see this so much with my clients. It 's super common. And in certain situations it is pretty helpful. Until it's not. The all or nothing mindset. The black and white mindset. The going to the gym 4 times a week followed by months of not going. The eating and counting every calorie followed by the takeaways at the weekend. As always I'm going to tell you how to shift this mindset. Shift the root cause and not just the surface level actions (which you can't work out why you

I came across a post this week that stopped me in my tracks. A Welsh food and travel blogger called Llio Angarad posted: "I want to see my vag again." Now, I'll be honest with you - I follow her because her Instagram is gorgeous. Beautiful photos of restaurants, incredible food, stunning places in Wales. She's got that whole aesthetic down to an art form that makes my sports science degree feel very...practical. But this post was different. She wants to feel stronger, lighter

Let me tell you a story It’s about no one in particular and it’s about most women in 2025..all at once. Let’s call this woman Cara. Cara grew up in the 90’s, her Mum was always on a diet, SlimFast, low fat - you name it, her Mum was always doing aerobics and step to try to lose some of the baby weight that she had put on. Cara went to Uni in the 2000’s where heroine chic was big, size 0 was a thing and Heat magazine was tearing down any woman bigger than a size 8. Then she we

This week I've - - Played netball on Monday night (top of the league FYI) - Ran my Virtual Mindful Eating Workshop on Tuesday and Thursday nights. - Played netball on Wednesday (netball is life) - Ran a business and transformed my clients mindsets around food, supported them with sick children, end of school madness and everything in between. - Cooked every meal. - Ticked off all things Christmas. - Brought the magic with the elves every.single.night. I could go on but you ge

December is BUSYYY isn't it? I always think those annual get-togethers would be so much more convenient in July.... But you are holding everything, making magic for the kids, doing all the life admin, going to every event and buying presents for everyone. It's busy and food is everywhere . The people pleaser in you is working overdrive. The perfectionist traits are shouting rather than whispering. And in amongst this overwhelm it can be really tempting to press the F**K it bu

I've always prided myself on how I go about coaching and running a business. I have never dug into pain points. I have never done before and after pictures when I did fitness coaching. I have always been a non judgemental space for my clients. And with that I've made some organisational changes. Which align with me and how I want to run Coaching with Cara. So first up is all my testimonials and reviews from my clients will be anonymous, forever. You see when people start co

I know I spoke about my new below the knee coat on Tuesday but it really has been a revelation. Why did no one tell me about just how toasty it was to walk around in a duvet all day? If you had told me 6 years ago that I would have a below the knee coat at 38 I would have laughed in your face. I did consider one last year when it was baltic but didn't commit. And I know why. Because of my body image. Body image is how you see your body, not what it actually looks like. As

I was having a chat with Stefan on our Sunday afternoon walk about how all I see on social media is how I should be holding Luca to sleep, having contact naps and how it's the best thing for them. I feel guilty because I pop Luca down in his cot wake and then he goes to sleep all by himself. He doesn't even like me patting his back anymore. There's no tears, no drama, he just goes to sleep. But I feel guilt. (isn't mum guilt wild) He said any words around parenting should sta

This week is all about your children. Well your relationship with their food. Because as you know kids are sponges. They take in what you say, what you do and everything in between. Always watching and learning (if you want them to or not). Now I've coached enough ladies in their 30's, 40's, 50's and even 60's on their relationship with food to know that it all starts in childhood. What they were made to do. How they were made to feel. What they were or weren't allowed to eat

I went to a hen do last weekend in Liverpool and from waking up (fresh) on Saturday morning to going to sleep (not so fresh) on Sunday morning at 2 I had done - 4.5km run to parkrun, I'd ran the 5km, walked the 4.5km back to the apartment via Starbs, walked around Liverpool trying to find blister plasters (the irony), walked to afternoon tea, danced on tables at Bongos Bingo, walked to a takeaway, danced to a live band on Matthews street and finally walked back to the apartm

Last week I popped a reel up about food rules and whilst it didn't go viral, it was very popular. So I've written this email and recorded an episode on Chatting with Cara on them (links below). Because they are running riot through your subconscious, without you even knowing about them. Food rules are just that. Rules we have on what, when and how we eat. They have come from other people in your childhood, from diets you have done and yourself. Think -  - Finish everything on

But it's not enough. Because you find yourself repeating the same pattern again and again, spinning your wheels. Even though you know you don't want to do it. I see you hun. Because I've been there. I love a good self help book. I see all the motivational quotes on social media too and you think that one golden nugget when you read it makes total sense but you can't seem to apply it when you are in the situation? Yeah that. Self help books are great for bringing awareness to

Everyone seems to be ill or coming down with something at the moment. The back to school germs are in full force, covid is going round and we have narrowly escaped the stomach bug which threatened to close the nursery last week. As an accredited nutritionist I'm just here to remind you that food can't heal you. As much as the advertising points to having a ginger shot to cure the common cold. It's just not going to work. Because food can't do that. Yes it can support health.

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