I was listening to a podcast the other week. Jamie Lang. Good Company. Paris Fury was the guest. And at the end, Jamie asked her what she was most proud of. Paris said her body. Not her looks. Not her size. Her body. For what it's done for her. For the seven children she's carried and raised. She talked about it like a person. Like someone worth being proud of. And I was so happy because that is body appreciation out in the wild. That's exactly what I talk about in my coachin

You've done the diets. You've downloaded the apps. You've watched the what I eat in a day videos. You've bought the supplements. You've followed the influencers. And you still find yourself saying the same thing. "I know what to do. I just don't do it." I know. And I want to talk about that sentence because it tells me everything. If you know what to do, then this isn't an information problem. You don't need more of it. You've already got too much. What's actually going on is

I had a client a while back who started buying a sugary coffee on the way home from work every single day. She didn't even like coffee. She wasn't doing it because she had a sweet tooth. She wasn't doing it because she was hungry. She was doing it and she had absolutely no idea why, other than the fact that she just... did it. Every day. Without thinking. So I asked her one question. "What is the coffee actually giving you?" And that's where it got interesting. It was never a

You've seen them. The pig dancing in front of the pool with the caption about a pre-holiday diet failing. The guinea pig waddling to the kitchen after a cry. "Me, seconds after complaining about how fat I am" - cue the dessert. They're everywhere. Instagram, TikTok, Facebook. And they get reshared over and over again until absolutely everyone has seen them. And I know. I know. They're just a laugh. A bit of harmless fun. But they're not harmless. And I've been wanting to say

I don't think I've ever met a woman who isn't busy. And busy is okay. Busy is normal. Most of us are busy. But life is not set up to refill your energy levels. It is very much set up to use them. So this is what I do with every single client, four things, in this order, that give them more energy. Because when the energy is there, everything else gets easier. Including making decisions. 1. Values and yes, this is always first. People come to me expecting food stuff. Habit tra

I don't see anyone else talking about this. And I genuinely don't know why. Because in all my years of coaching women through their relationship with food, this is the one thing that is missing. Not a meal plan. Not a food diary. Not another rule to add to the pile. Curiosity. Stick with me. When something happens around food, a craving, a pattern, a moment where you've done the thing you said you wouldn't do, most of us see it through the same lens. Shame. "I shouldn't be do

If you read part one, you'll know I went into Wednesday night with a plan. Not a food plan. Not a one plate rule or a skip lunch to save room strategy. Just a set of tools, a relaxed mindset, and a genuine intention to enjoy Sue's birthday dinner without it being a whole thing. So here's what actually happened. The Castle was absolutely roasting. I had a polo neck on. My window of tolerance was already shrinking before I'd even looked at the menu. Luca came with us, which i

We're going to an all you can eat Italian buffet this Wednesday night at The Castle in Wem. It was Sue's 70th birthday a couple of weeks ago and she loves food. She loves her family being around her. She wanted to go out for a nice Italian and celebrate. Simple as that. Except, for a lot of the women I work with, it really isn't that simple. A buffet isn't just a buffet. It's the skipping lunch beforehand. It's the "I'll only have one plate" deal you make with yourself on the

I know you did this last week. You bought the low calorie bars at the weekend. The skinny bars. The 80 calorie ones. Because you were going to be good this week. So after tea, when the kids had gone to bed and it had gone a bit quieter, you had one. But one didn't touch the sides. So you had another. And then the maths started. "Three is still under 250. It's fine." And then you're standing in the kitchen feeling frustrated with yourself, wondering why you can't just have one

Bit of a niche blog today. Have you ever done a fitness photo shoot? If you have read on. If you haven't but you like a 8 week plan then also read on as there’s some cross over. So you’ve done it. So why do you feel worse? You did everything right. Weeks of prep. Hitting your macros. Saying no to the wine when you were out with your mates. Getting up for cardio. Counting every calorie. Doing every single thing you were told to do. And then the shoot happened. Hair done.

I've been wanting to write this one for a while. Because I know you follow along, listen to the podcast and think "I love what Cara does, but it's probably not for someone like me". And that thought is stopping you from getting help that could change everything. There's an image in your head. I know what it is. When people hear "relationship with food coaching," they picture someone in a larger body. Someone whose struggle is "visible". Diet culture has spent decades telli

I’ve just got back from the Amalfi Coast and I’m going to talk to you about holidays for this year, because this stuff needs a little time. Just like when Christmas comes round and all the crafting programs are on but you’ve actually got no time to craft anything…I’m your Kirsty Allsop for you relationship with food. If you've got a holiday coming up this year, whether it's booked, half booked, or you're just thinking about it, I want to talk to you today. Because there's so

I've got a busy day today. I'm cleaning my house before I go away for a few days. Sound familiar and just like the sort of thing that you would do? That's because I'm a type A personality and you probably are too. We are - Highly competitive and driven, Ambitious and goal focused. Works quickly and feels time urgency (even when others don't). Multi tasks frequently. Struggles to switch off and relax. Type B personalities are the opposite. Neither is better than the other,

Oh, delivering all the fierce compassion today. I don't know if you need to hear it but I think it's a good reminder to you. This was the reply from Dr Laura Bangs (Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist) when I asked her "What is the one thing you wish everyone woman knew about her health?" on my podcast. Now, I'm not sure what kind of answer I was looking for with that question but I wasn't expecting where Laura went with it. But it makes sense doesn't it? Heavy perio

I'm a massive feminist. Always have been and always will be. So International Women's Day is music to my ears. As you read this I have popped on a special FREE Virtual Pilates class this morning and I will be standing in Wem Town Hall at the IWD fair all today. As the name suggests "international" feels quite big so I wanted to discuss with you how you can play your part in promoting women all year round, daily and making real change. And because it's me I want to make thi

There. I said it. Because if you spend any amount of time on social media especially in the health and wellness space, you will know that a lot of marketing is built on making you feel like something is wrong with you. The before and afters. The subtle (and not so subtle) digs that leave you scrolling and feeling worse about yourself than when you started. I've never done it. And I never will. This week on Chatting with Cara I joined the wonderful Charlotte Williams on her

I’ve been deep in collecting my clients' reviews and testimonials this week. I should do it as I go along really…..(note to self) But it’s really highlighted to me just how bloody good I am at this coaching malarky because the results are fabulous. So, I’m going to tell you about Sarah (you're probably going to see yourself in her). You've had a stressful day. The emails won't stop. Your boss is being unreasonable. You feel...something. But you can't quite name it. So you h

I have a stepdaughter who is 11 going on 19, and I was chatting to Stefan telling him all about my new Menopause Workshop which I've launched. When she came into the conversation and asked that question. Well actually the first question was "what is menopause?" So I explained and then she said but you haven't been through that? I said no but I can still talk about it, offer support, guidance and advice. She looked at me funny..... I'm not sure I brought her round but I'm he

For the OG's around her you will remember when I was a PT, well I was having a chat the other day to another PT and we were talking away and I was explaining what I do now and she said.... "Do you find that clients' motivation drops off after the start?" and I said, "No, not at all" In fact, I find the opposite, my clients get further and further into what I teach so that they get motivated more and more to learn and to practice it. The start of February is psychologically a

When I say emotional eating your mind might go straight to Bridget Jones (we are of an age aren't we), her delving into a tub of Ben and Jerry's crying and listening to "All By Myself". But when I say boredom eating. I bet you resonate with that? Most women do. But I bet you aren't actually bored. Because let's face it you've got a to do list longer than your arm. You are triggered by a messy house. You are the default parent. You do all the mental admin. A lot. A spa day i